Without meaning in their lives, many people turn to materialism and money to fill a void of unhappiness, but seldom does it work because nothing can ever replace the innate need to grow that is evident within all of us.
Self-growth has nothing to do with the exterior world, and everything to do with the inner self. It’s about taking the time to concentrate on you and living life with purpose.
Here are seven practical ways to experience self-growth.
Tip 1: Overcome Your Fears
Fear keeps you stuck in a rut and prevents you from growing; the fear of failing will stop you from achieving your goals, just as the fear of loneliness will keep you lonely but, perhaps more poignantly, fear removes you from the present moment.
Many of our fears are based around the future or past, rarely do they relate to what is happening right now; fear has no place in the present moment, so learning how to maintain a state of presence will help expel the fear from your life.
Ultimately, our fears come from old thought patterns, which eventually become ingrained in our beliefs. However, they are not unalterable, beliefs can be changed through the use of affirmations. We’ve written about affirmations a lot – they are a powerful way to reverse negative beliefs and overcome fears.
Tip 2: Spend Time With Yourself
Spending time alone is vital for self-growth; it helps us to discover who we are without any interruptions or influences.
It is through moments of solitude that awareness of our needs comes to light; begin to value solitude; see it as a sacred practice that you participate in regularly. It is when we are alone that mindfulness is at its peak; we can reflect on our lives and consider change.
Tip 3: Be Grateful to Yourself
While we are all too quick to point out our flaws, rarely do we focus on what we are doing well. Appreciation is the perfect ingredient for any relationship, especially the one you have with yourself.
Gratitude is part and parcel of self-growth; when we are grateful we become open to receiving more – more happiness, more peace, more satisfaction. This is because we have acknowledged our own efforts and can see value in what we are doing.
Learn to appreciate everything you do for yourself, concentrate on your blessings, not your flaws, and be grateful for who you are.
Tip 4: Keep a Journal
It is said that journaling is one of the most effective ways to build an intimate relationship with yourself, and we happen to agree.
While our thoughts usually exist of repetitiveness, what we jot down on paper quite often comes from the heart. Not only does a journal help us to connect with our soul, it also forces us to discover our truths and develop an understanding of ourselves.
Journaling is now prolifically used as a mindfulness tool; it helps us to enter a state of presence, provides a sense of relief and also heightens our state of consciousness.
Just writing a few sentences per day can help you learn more about what makes you happy and what doesn’t, from which you can grow.
Tip 5: Learn Self-Growth From Spiritual Teachers
Spiritual masters are inspiring, and can be a great guidance in one’s life. There is so much to be gained from people who hold the answers to most of your questions, and better still, the information is easily accessible.
There are many highly influential spiritual teachers in all corners of the world, who provide guidance to people every day. Select a small number of spiritual masters and begin to study them, find out how you can move forward with their help.
Here we list seven of the greatest spiritual teachers.
Tip 6: Forgive
Forgiveness is an essential component of self-growth; holding onto anger and upset, which is related to something that has been and gone, will keep you trapped in the past.
We are able to forgive when we accept; it might be a person, yourself, or even a situation that is waiting for your acceptance but until doing so, you will not be able to move forward. Note, acceptance is not the same as approval; we talk more about this here.
Forgiveness of others, and of course ourselves, releases us from the haunt of the past; it is a gift we can give to ourselves.
Tip7: Educate Yourself
Increasing your knowledge about ways in which to grow, and indeed keeping yourself immersed in it, is one of the best ways to stay focused on improving your life.
If we stop concentrating on self-growth, there is risk that we will revert back to old, negative thought patterns, so it’s good to keep it fresh in our minds.
We’re very fortunate to live in an era where valuable information is accessible to most people. Go on a quest for knowledge – read to your heart’s content and digest every piece of information you can find that might help you.
Books are one of the more traditional but still very popular ways of gaining wisdom, but are certainly not the only way; YouTube offers a plethora of videos on self-help, some of which are listed here. You can also find many useful articles online, a quick search on Google will do the trick.
The Soul Analyse weekly newsletter is another source of support – each Monday we send spiritual growth encouragement straight to our readers’ mailboxes – you can sign up here.